“No one is you and that is your Power.” ~Unknown
How often do we adjust who we are and how we act depending on the company we keep? I’m guilty of it. Most adults are, I would assume. Its rare you find someone that is completely accepting of themselves and live as if they know something most of us don’t. I actually know two people like that. They haven’t been here long, on this earth. They are my children and my greatest teachers.
I have the privilege of staying home with my daughter, Lily, and watching her grow. She changes everyday as most of us do without realizing it. With each day that passes I fall more in love with her. There is no particular reason that is so, it just is. She doesn’t have to do anything or be a certain way, but there will be times throughout the day is she is learning about her world where she will present me with a question. “Mom is Cinderella sad?” she says with her head turned as she holds the book on her lap. “Will she get her new dress soon mommy,” with wide eyes looking for hope in my words and on my face reading my every expression. Her curiosity and her growth intrigues me. Her ability to learn the english language and be so inquisitive makes me smile. She learns new words everyday and absorbs everything around her. She is learning to navigate her emotions and is looking to me to figure out how to respond to them. If there is someone she does not prefer she doesn’t got to them to please anyone. She learning that boundaries are okay. She knows what she likes, she knows who she wants to give her attention to and who she doesn’t, with no apologies. When her pap walks into the room she runs back to her room as fast as she can and puts a princess dress on. Runs out with a giant smile on her face and dances around as she shows her pap her beautiful dress. She is completely herself and I love her for that. At the end of the day all she wants is to be noticed and loved for exactly who she is. Which is an every changing, ever growing beauty inside and out.
I had the same privilege with my my son Jimmy who is now in Kindergarten. I fall in love with him the same way daily. He is so welcoming to everyone he meets as if he can see exactly how special each soul is and what they made for. When he looks at you he sees something more and you can feel it. He has the ability to make you fall in love with him, just by being in his presence. We were at a 16th birthday party the other day for my girlfriends daughter. There were kids there Jimmy’s age, but he wasn’t interested in them. He walked right up to a group of 16 year old girls on the dance floor and just started busting some moves. No hesitation, no over thinking, just sheer excitement and eagerness. When he would retreat the dance floor for a drink of water and the girls would be in a closed circle dancing upon his return he would slide his way through and dance in the center of them all without a care in the world. Jimmy had a huge smile on his face the entire time and was completely himself dancing the night away. Again he just wants to be a part of it all, excepted for who is and what he is good at.
I tell you these stories because as an adult questions run through my mind before I do something, like what will people think? Will they think I’m weird? What if people don’t like me or my writing? Will people accept me for who I am? Do I accept me for who I am? Also known as insecurities or fears. Children don’t seem to have these questions run through their minds when there about to do something we consider brave as adults. After becoming a mother, I finally understand why instead of asking our kids to visit our world, why we should live in theirs. Our kids teach us to be happy for no reason, to be curious and inquisitive in order to learn about our world. They teach us how to love unconditionally, how to be brave, and how to be ourselves completely with no apologies. We as parents are not always the teachers of our children, they teach us how to live life in its most beautiful form. We need to take time to notice. More importantly we need to actually act on those teachings.
I have dragged my feet on releasing this blog for months now. I know why. It scares the hell out of me to be so vulnerable in a world thats not always so accepting. Then I think of my Lily and my Jimmers and I know I must take the leap into the unknown. For I want Jimmers and Lily to not grow up into this crazy adult world, I want them to grow and expand their world into mine. That means being myself, no apologies and accepting what ever comes. So here’s to you Lily for teaching me how to master my emotions, being accepting of myself whoever that is today and always looking at the world with wonder. Here’s to you my Jimmers for being exactly who you are without a second thought, seeing the beauty in everyone you meet and dancing right through life with a smile on your face. Thank you for making me brave just by being yourselves. Best advice I have heard in a while, “JUST BE YOU.”